OK…so many of you know that I made that last baby set for a shower I was to attend this past Saturday…something i have been dreading for a month. I gave a slight history about the parents-to-be…and everyone kept saying “why are you going? DON”T GO!!! WHY are you making them something? NOOOO!” it’s not really ThAT easy….
So i’ve known these people for over 20 years. I grew up w/ this family in church. Our church wasn’t a “normal” church. all of us that grew up together still talk to each other pretty often, whether it’s email or phone calls or whatever. So i’ve known these people since i was like 6-7 yrs old. We’ve been through the awkward years together, high school, colllege, and many of them are married and now have kids. During college, i noticed how superficial and snotty some of these people are. which is weird b/c i grew up with them! I’m considered a black sheep b/c i didn’t follow the same path some of them did.
Even though i avoid everyone at all costs, when events like this come up, my mom tells me i should go and make an impression…mainly for her sake. For those who don’t know how traditional Chinese families work…alot of how children act reflect on the parents. If i skipped the shower and didn’t acknowledge it w/ a gift, people will talk poorly of me, which reflects poorly on my parents. “who taught that child about manners? her parents!” If I show up, happy, smiling and with an awesome handmade gift, it makes HER look good. she doesn’t “care” about a great impression, but she wants me to be polite to show that she taught me well and that im’ a good girl. i know…it’s stupid. But i’m supposed to do right by my parents. i don’t want it to reflect badly on them. there…i said it. the mystery is solved. 🙂
Long time experience told me to be late for the shower b/c any time i meet these people for ANY event, they are always at least an hour late. Shower was to start at 3p. i showed up 30 min late to the shower, and i was STILL early. go figure. They were barely setting up when i arrived…so the shower didn’t start until 430p
Apparently i didn’t read the invitiation. I was supposed to wear PINK to the shower. I showed up wearing red. hahaha. ooops. and i was supposed to bring the gift wrapped in PINK. I knew about this. and I didn’t wrap it in PINK on purpose. tee-hee. And i was supposed to bring an item for the “time capsule”. yeah…i didn’t do that crap either. Everyone was wearing pink except for me. The father-to-be was there at the shower….didn’t leave…wearing PINK. sigh.
my gift was the 3rd gift opened. OMG..they LOVED IT! LOVED LOVED LOVED IT so much they passed it around so everyone could examine it! i was kind of shocked and happy about that.
When the mom-to-be’s mom got a hold of the sweater…she started to examine it BIG TIME b/c she wanted the pattern! it was so funny! She was yelling at me from across the room “JENNIFER…iS THIS A PATTERN!?? WHERE DID YOU GET THE PATTTERN?!? I WANT IT!! DO YOU HAVE PATTERN OR DID YOU JUST MAKE THIS UP???” and i said “ALL MEEEEE…I made it up!” Her jaw just droppped!
And then i remembered…she’s the one that taught me how to knit when i was 8 years old! i asked my mom to teach me…my mom didn’t know how to knit! So this friend of ours heard me asking my mom and told me she would teach me. it’s funny..she taught me how to knit on my pretty pink chopsticks. I had a set of chopsticks that were so pretty pink, i refused to eat with them b/c they were so pretty. 🙂 so she taught me on those. all i used to knit when was a kid was just straight square/rectangle things. 🙂
So after all the gifts were opened….she came up to the sweater and was seriously analyzing it. it was so funny. THen she said “how you learn how to do this?” I said “don’t you remember??? YOU TAUGHT ME WHEN I WAS EIGHT!!” she said “I DID??? WOWWWW..YOU STILL REMEMBER?” it was really very cute.
So i explained to her “oh…this is a top down sweater…blah blah” she was all asking me “how many stitches? no seaming?” then she ran and got a piece of paper and goes “ok…tell me pattern!” i go “no no.i don’t remember off the top of my head..i’ll send it to you!” then she was all “OOOOOH…here is my email! i want i want!!” then before i left…she kept saying “dont’ forget to email me that pattern!!” hahaha. so that made my day. but yeah..the shower was exactly as I imagined it would be. fakey fakey nice….not so great food, fakey nice to people i know and then hardly know….it was silly.
As I was leaving, the mom-to-be was yelling “thank you for knitting that set for us!!!!”
for once, i felt like “wow….” hahahaha